Gift giving is a tough subject. You never know who you’re supposed to be getting a gift for, or how much money you should spend, or whether or not they’ll even like what you choose. And when you aren’t in a relationship with some, but you are definitely “CLOSE” (ifyaknowhwatImean-hint-hint), it’s extra tough to figure out if you should get them a gift.

So, for the first time ever, we bring you a no-fail list of gifts for that special someone who occasionally shares your bed but not always only when you’re horny. Here is BCU’s top 5 list of things to buy your booty call!

For a dude:

1. Cosmopolitan’s Satisfy a Woman Every Single Time

At just over $12, this will be the gift that keeps on giving. Sure, Cosmo is notorious for giving miserable, borderline evil sex advice to women, but we imagine they know what they’re talking about in this book. Ladies, this book will be a gift to your fave booty call, but it’s also a gift to yourself ;)… just make sure to preface it with “NOT THAT YOU NEED IT BUT…”

For a lady:

2. Champagne and chocolate

And I don’t mean some M&Ms and a bottle of Andre. Shell out $20 and you can get a semi-decent bottle of wine and a box of Godiva chocolates that will, with any luck, get you BOTH in the mood!

3. A coupon for a massage (or more)

If you’re low on funds this year (and um, who isn’t?) print out a “coupon” for your booty call to redeem for one 30 minute massage, foot rub, or something a little more on the erotic side! Make it official by specifying an expiration date and adding terms and conditions, like “may not occur before 9pm and must be naked at time of redemption.”

4. These SEXY calendars

The 2012 “Reading is Sexy” calendar might not being as elite as its Pirelli cousin, but it still features 12 sexy months of near-naked hotties in the middle of a very hot act… READING! Not what you expected? Well, we promise, it’s just as risque as you’d want. Plus, 100% of the proceeds go to buying books for children who have none, so you can feel good about your purchase. Remember, reading is sexy, and so is being charitable!

5. The gift of health

We might not be able to keep away those winter colds, but you can ensure your (and your booty call’s) sexual health this holiday season by giving them a box of condoms! And over at Condomania, the options are endless, from glow in the dark to super ribbed or even CUSTOM FIT. This holiday season, say NO to STDs and pregnancy (but yes to fun hook ups) by scooping these up for your favorite booty call… or yourself!

As the holidays get closer, many people join dating sites like eHarmony and Match looking for their soulmate, or at least someone to act like their soul mate throughout the season. Usually, that doesn’t work, and people end up spending Christmas Eve with their families, thinking themselves to be unlovable and contemplating jumping out a window. Maybe, though, they were just looking in the wrong spot for love! Because these two people, just like the many before them, found love on a little dating site called OnlineBootyCall… and we bet their holidays are going to be the best ever (at least since that year they got that Atari back in third grade.)!

“We started as friends with benefits but it has become much more. Thank you OBC!” Female, 32, Benton, AR

“Met the one for me and she met the one for her! We clicked just off of our profiles then getting to know each other confirmed it was time to get off this site. I’m glad we met here!” Male, 36, Los Angeles, CA

Finally, a woman who knows how to land a man!

(Just so we’re on the same page, THIS IS A JOKE. DO NOT FLIRT LIKE THIS WOMAN. SHE IS A TERRIFYING CREEP WITH A THICK ACCENT AND HORRIBLE SUIT DRESSES. )

Poor Melvin. He was rightfully terrified.

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We spend a lot of time together, readers, laughing at dumb criminals and learning about sex news and watching crazy videos. However, sometimes we have to remember that this is Booty Call University, and every once in a while (like once every two weeks depending on how hungover you might be) you actually have to show up to class. And since summer is just about in full swing, we figured we’d drop some knowledge on how to snag some summer lovin that will make 2011 your best year yet!

1. Make yourSELF the best you can be

Before you start going around judging potential hook ups in the summer sun, make sure that you yourself are lookin’ fly. When was the last time you got a haircut? Do you need to, ahem, change your diet and workout plan? Are you still wearing last years’ cheap-ass flip flops from when you lost your nice ones in Havasu? And on that note, HOW ARE YOUR FEET LOOKING? We by no means believe in superficiality, but if you are walking around looking like a mess, how are you going to have the confidence (and the gall) to pick the best booty out there? Take some time to look in the mirror and work on the things you’ve been hiding under sweatshirts and beanies for the past few months. Oh, and stock up on contraception. No need to be spreading diseases or makin’ babies this summer.

2. Hang out at the right places

The summer is all about finding cool, casual people who are down to have fun and hook up without a big commitment or drama. Because of this, I would advise to steer clear of the clubs. The ladies and gents who frequent epilepsy-inducing nightclubs in the middle of the hottest season of the year are PROBABLY not the type you want to bring home. They’re high-maintenance and expensive, and probably will take more work than they’re worth. Instead, hit up smaller venues like hip gastropubs and beachside bars that are more “sandals and daisy dukes” than “sky-high heels and glittery dress.” That’s where you’ll find the type of folk who are down (in more ways than one).

3. Be forward, but not creepy

Honesty is always the best policy, but if you are dancing with a hottie and chatting over drinks, there is no need to yell “HEY I’M REALLY JUST LOOKING FOR SEX RIGHT NOW OKAY NOT A RELATIONSHIP SORRY LET’S GO BACK TO YOUR PLACE?!” over the music (this is specifically addressed to guys. Ladies – dudes might really be into this. I’m not sure). Instead, enjoy each others company, get flirtatious, and maybe try and go home alone with just their number the first night. After a couple days, either call or send a text that explains you aren’t looking for anything serious but had a lot of fun and would love to hang out again, or something of that nature. That way you put your intentions on the table without sounding like a pervy creep with no tact.

4. Keep your options open

Instead of claiming the first person you meet as your summer hook up, make a rule that you’ll only call once a week or so. If you immediately latch onto the first person you hook up with, you’ll end up ditching out on your friends and potentially missing out on a new, even better hook up that’s waiting in the wings. Keep getting yourself out there and you’ll get a view of the millions of fish in the sea.

5. Most importantly: have fun

All these rules are relative, of course, to your desires and experience. Perhaps you are just looking for one fling – that’s okay… and maybe nightclubs are just your thing and you like the scene better. Also cool. However, above all, you must remember that summer is about enjoying the season and all it has to offer and HAVE FUN. The second things start heading south. Pull back, evaluate, and see what you need to do to be your happiest! The whole point of casual dating is to enjoy being young and carefree, instead of feeling suffocated and limited. So have fun, get laid, and have a BOOTY-FUL summer!

That headline might take the cake for biggest hype for the smallest payout, so apologies in advance…

Reese Witherspoon made an appearance at the MTV Movie Awards this past weekend when she won the “My Generation” Award (wut?) and made a subtle jab at Blake Lively and other starlets who have had nude pics leak online (see: Vanessa Hudgens, Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton), when she said,

I get it, girls, that it’s cool to be a bad girl. But it is possible to make it in Hollywood without doing a reality show. When I came up in the business, if you made a sex tape, you were embarrassed and you hid it under your bed. And if you took naked pictures of yourself on your cellphone, you hide your face, people! Hide your face!

We’re sure that Miss Lively and others were not totally pleased by the elbow to the ribs that good-girl Witherspoon gave them, but we do have to give her credit for speaking the truth. When it comes to sexting in a world where anything and everything you do can be uploaded to the internet in a matter of milliseconds, keeping your anonymity somehow is a necessity. As we discussed in the Anthony Weiner article, the chance that you could accidentally hit “SEND TO FACEBOOK AND TWITTER AND EVERYONE IN THE WORLD AND ALSO OTHER PLANETS” is just one scroll click away from “text to person.” To keep your face out of pictures is probably some sage advice.

Check back tomorrow for BCU’s top 5 tips for sexting… we’ll cover the based that Reese didn’t.

As you know, OBC is a dating site that promotes, fun, casual dating, without having to promise marriage just to get a date. We think hook ups are fun, and booty calls are better, and finding someone you are sexually compatible with can be just as important a moment as finding someone you are “emotionally” compatible with.

That being said, we’re still logical human beings, and we know that there are difficulties in the dating world, especially when it comes to deciding to stay single in a world that is biased towards couples. What kind of difficulties? Well, battling loneliness, staying safe, and not falling into Sex traps, for example. So, as your educators in the single world, BCU would like to present you with a Three Step Guide to Living Single.

Battling Loneliness

This is a tough one especially for people who are used to being in a relationship. Once they decide to go the single route, they realize that there are a LOT more hours in the day when you spend some of them alone instead of with another human being attached to your hip. However, most people who decide to be single fall in love with it: they can sleep in, stay up late, pick up new hobbies, jet set with friends whenever they want, and more. However, to battle those beginning moments when you feel kinda down in the dumps, make sure to have your single friends on speed dial for lunch dates and check out your local sports and social clubs. One of the best parts of being single is the time you can dedicate to bettering yourself, and who knows, you might meet someone where you least expect it!

Staying Safe

One of the biggest things we hear in criticism of OBC is that people are “just asking to get STDs.” If anything, this is a disparaging remark about our public education system, if everyone thinks that casual sex automatically gives you diseases. It’s been said that a large percentage of porn stars have some form of HPV or herpes, but there is another aspect of porn that is overwhelming: the lack of condom use. People don’t like seeing condoms in porn so they rarely show up, but that’s not real life. It’s not about the amount of sex you have, but how smart you are when you have it. Wear a condom, dummies. Be on birth control, women. Get tested frequently, people. We’re all grown ups here (and if you’re not, close this window right now, young man!), and should be able to openly and frankly discuss sexual health with one another, and be smart enough to take care of ourselves.

Avoiding Sex Traps

What are sex traps? Well, let’s say you hook up with someone and it’s awesome. It’s fun, it’s sexy, everything goes great. But after a while you realize, eh, you’re not really into them, or they’re clingy, or they’re crazy, or they’re psycho, or once the sex is over you can’t stand them but they are in love you. It’s easy, when you’re working through point one (dealing with loneliness) to fall into hanging out with them when really you’re just doing it because you don’t want to be alone. Remember in that episode of 30 Rock when Jack keeps hooking up with Jennifer Aniston’s character even though she’s crazy and then in the end she puts him in JAIL? Yeah. That’s gonna be you. Resist the temptation to hang out with crazy. In the words of Admiral Ackbar, IT’S A TRAP. Deal with traps in the same way you do with loneliness, except perhaps with a dash of free porn.

Remember, transitioning into being single can be an awkward, uncomfortable time. But in the end, you’ll be happier, healthier, and ready to hit the single scene. Follow these tips, and get your single on!

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I don’t know if it’s the warmer weather (it’s 90 degrees in San Diego), the celebration of Osama’s death getting people riled up (gross), or the Royal Wedding, but people have been talkin’ sex this week. Not only are Australian dudes having “too much” sex, but fat people are “unsatisfied,” and now single parents might be more DTF!?

According to Jezebel, that is the case – based on a Match.com survey,

21% of single parents are currently dating someone versus 16% of singles without kids; 35% of single parents have been on a first date in the past year versus 27% of singles without kids.

Of course, as the author points out, we can’t be sure exactly of what “dating” means. It could mean anything from “have been on one date” to “are in an exclusive relationship,” although that’s probably not the case considering they’re still on Match.com.

So comes the all-important question – would you date a single mom or dad? Considering that question is often prominently featured in online dating questionnaires, it must be an important topic for people. Before you consider a relationship with a single parent, though, you should probably consider a couple factors:

1.What type of relationship you are looking for

There is a reason there is MILF porn. A lot of guys think the idea of having a booty call or Friends With Benefits relationship with a more experienced woman would be awesome. However, many single mothers who are in the dating scene aren’t looking for a casual relationship. Be sure to get your intentions on the table early.

2. Whether or not they have sole custody

Even if you are both looking for just a hook up relationship, you should take into account whether or not your dates kid will be around every time you see each other. If that’s the case, you might want to reconsider the complications that you might cause between someone and their child if you are around a lot but don’t want to have a relationship with them.

3. How their relationship is with their kid

You can tell a lot about a person based on their relationship with their child. Are they close? Do they make an effort to see their kid often? And if not, are they providing financially and/or taking the time to build a relationship with them? Of course there are always exceptions, where the other parent makes things difficult or the child lives far away, but you might not want to get caught up with someone who is a deadbeat mom or dad.

4. PROTECTION

Remember, the reason someone is a single parent is because the relationship that conceived the child wasn’t meant to be. And although the kid is probably loved and taken care of, you need to make sure you think of yourself first! Always have protection and USE IT. We’re all grown ups here, it’s not a sixth grade awkward sex ed class anymore. Just DO IT!

What do you think? Would you date and/or hook up with a single parent? Or are people with kids off limits?

When we hear criticism about OBC, it’s usually people saying things like “you’re selling a bunch of meaningless one night stands,” and it’s then when we just roll our eyes and don’t put up a fight, because anyone who would say that obviously just doesn’t get it. If we were selling one-night stands, wouldn’t we be called OnlineOneNightStand, instead of OnlineBootyCall? Well, obviously the message isn’t as clear as we thought it was because the “one-night stand” argument continues to pop up, so let us help remind you of the differences between a booty call and a one night stand.

First of all, even science has shown that booty calls and one night stands aren’t the same!

Studies have shown that a booty call falls in a different place on the spectrum than either a one night stand or a committed relationship. They’ve also found that people who partake in casual sex are no less likely to end up in a healthy, committed relationship sometime in the future. Sometimes, booty calls even end up as relationships! And what luck,  considering sex is one of the most key elements of a relationship. No one loses in a booty call situation, it’s just two people who enjoy being single but like the benefit of having regular sex without the added drama. Instead of being single and lamenting about a “dry spell,” you can have all the perks of being single minus the tedious hunt for hook ups. What’s not to love?

Remember, safety first!

If you do it right, a booty call can be one of the safest sexual relationships a person could have! You always know to have protection ready, and can feel comfortable discussing your sexual health with a person because HEY, that might be all you have in common! With a one-night stand, you could potentially risk drunkenly thrusting your way into a hearty dose of genital herpes, AKA the gift that keeps on giving.

What’s wrong with Friends With Benefits?

Booty calls are just another way to name “friends with benefits.” Take Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake in their movie of the same name – the trailer shows that they are great friends who have bad luck in relationships, so they decide to try a fun, non-exclusive sexual relationship. A booty call is just that – a friend you can always call up for a romp in the hay without feeling guilty or awkward! Even if you aren’t “besties,” though, a booty call isn’t a stranger. You know their name. You probably know where they live. You definitely know their favorite position. You know a lot more about a booty call then you know about a one-night stand, even if you think you “fell in love” at the bar. Although you might not watch movies and eat take out together, you can get to know a lot about your booty call, without ever having to deal with an emotional commitment that will almost certainly end in heartbreak.

On top of these three MASSIVE differences, there also lies the fact that you can meet a booty call on OnlineBootyCall.com. Sure, we bet there have been a few one night stands in our time becoming the #1 casual dating site on the internet, but that is not our intention. At OnlineBootyCall, you can meet someone, learn stuff about them, chat with them online, and even get a little dirty before you even meet… all while knowing that you’re both only looking for a great time and nothing serious, or in other words, a booty call!

Continuing on with our series on dating how-tos, we go from avoiding first date awkwardness to something way worse: How To End an Awful First Date.

We’ve all been there. You’re out with that guy or girl you’ve totally been crushing on, but it’s just. Not. Working. You don’t agree on anything, everything they do bothers you, and they keep making jokes that make you want to shove forks in your ears. But somehow, they just don’t get that it is a terrible date! Somehow they think everything’s going great and you two are a perfect couple. And you’re just like, “what the HELL do I do to get out of this?”

Here, let us help you out a bit:

1. Be honest, but polite

The moment you realize, “this is not going to work,” say something. Do not sit there letting your date think that everything is going great while you secretly text your friend to call you about an emergency. Because then what happens? They call and you say “I’m sorry, I have to go, my grandmother has passed away,” and then they say, “LET ME DRIVE YOU THERE!”

It’s better to step in during a lull in the conversation, and say it was really nice to meet them, but “we’re just really not compatible,” or something of the sort. You don’t need to detail all the horrible things you don’t like about them, and definitely don’t say, “you’re just too fat.” Just say that although they seem like a really cool person, you just don’t see this going anywhere. Give them a handshake or a quick hug, and say goodbye. Trust us, using a lame excuse will only end with them calling the next day. And the next day. And five times the day after that. No good.

2. Don’t be a p***y

Whatever you do, don’t give your date the slip – as in, leaving when they go to the bathroom, or slipping out when they aren’t looking, or leaving them on a street corner while you “get the car.” (Also, I know those all sound very specific and like maybe they happened to me or something but that’s definitely not the case, okay, so don’t think that all three of those have happened to me) Anyway, all that’ll do is create a bad reputation for yourself. Be a grown up and tell them why you think the date should end, follow rule number one, and get on your way. You never know – they might have a hot friend and you don’t want to ruin the chances with them!

3. Avoid, avoid, avoid

The last thing you need is to run into your awful date the next day, the next week, hell, even the next month! So if they told you where they like to hang out normally (and they probably did, because awkward dates always end up talking too much about themselves), steer clear of those places for at least the next month. Running into someone you rejected like graft-versus-host isn’t going to end any better if you get wasted and see them at a bar while you’re making out with a hottie on the dance floor. This sucks the most when you met your date at the club you love most, which is why you should just be meeting hot singles at new places, or even better: OnlineBootyCall.com! ;)

Tune in next week for the next entry in our Dating How-To series: How To: Ask For a Second Date… that one should be a little less depressing. See you then!

So, you fixed up your headline, adjusted your photos, gave your profile a makeover and mastered the first message. Now of course, it’s time to actually meet up! Because this is a casual dating site (and because we are normal human beings who don’t live in Disney princess movies), we know there is no such thing as love at first sight. We also know that first dates are notoriously awkward. AND we know that for the most part, the first date is just getting you closer to the last, so it shouldn’t be THAT big of a deal. Luckily, we have some experience in the field and therefore would love to help you with those first date jitters.

Here is BCU’s How To: Avoid First Date Awkwardness.

1. Don’t over-plan it

The last thing you’ll want to do is treat the first date like some sort of over-zealous attempt at making yourself look good. If you try and plan a romantic dinner in the park followed by a scavenger hunt followed by drinks on a rooftop, most likely two of those things will bomb. Sprinklers will go off in the park, your scavenger hunt will be a failure, or the rooftop bar will be closed. Or all three. Plan one thing, like the drinks at a place with a nice view, and then call it a night, orrr take the fun back to your place. If you know what I mean. ;)

2. Don’t try and go at it alone

If you are prone to nervousness on dates, there is no problem in having your date meet up with you with a group of their friends while you’re with your friends. Not only will it feel less awkward to have your friends around, but you’ll be able fill gaps in conversations by introducing your date to your friends. Two tips: DO NOT be so nervous that you ignore your date all night, and do NOT forget to tell your friends that if they say anything awkward about you, you’ll sell their organs on the black market.

3. Go somewhere with entertainment

Check out your local bars and restaurants that have live music or a DJ spinning. That way, when those tense silences come up (they will, no matter how compatible you are), you can always say, “boy this band is great!” or “my god this DJ sounds like a drunk 4 year old.”

4. Have a pre-date drink

Sitting around your apartment, tapping your foot and sweating through your top isn’t going to make the start of the date any easier. Call up a friend and ask them to meet you for a drink a few minutes before you are to meet your date. Note that I said “a” drink and not seven drinks. showing up to your date drunk is a big slice of no-no cake. But one glass of wine to loosen up your muscles and nerves is never a bad idea.

5. Don’t over-think it

This is the most important advice in this entire post. Whether you are meeting someone from OBC that you don’t really plan on starting a relationship with, or someone with whom you could see a long-term thing happening with (yuck), making the experience more tense than necessary is POINTLESS. Just have fun with it, and let us know how it goes!

Do you have a dating question that needs advice? Let us know in the comments!